It is 1990 and my husband and I are out searching for a good used car. Our first used car we bought after seeing it advertised on the side of the road. We pulled over, I negotiated a price and we drove off. It worked fine for more than half a dozen years. But there we were, stepping up, as it were. And what happened is a familiar story to… Read More »It is Time for Women to Start Using the Economic Power They Already Have
In the 1950s and 60s “refrigerator” mothers, those who were seen, accurately or not, as cold and unloving were to blame for the mental fragility or illness of their children. Until far too recently, it was only a mother’s age, genetics, and health that were taken into consideration when evaluating whether a child would be born whole or not. Mothers are blamed for not bonding properly with their children, for… Read More »Are Women Responsible for the Powerlessness of Men?
I have fantasies. Oh, do I have fantasies. They wake me up in the middle of the night; they keep me from work; they interfere with my relationships. My longing is unending. It consumes me. Sometimes I stand, immobilized by my desires: So strong and overwhelming are they that I am unable even to make a step forward. My fantasies are those of domination and submission but not in the… Read More »Fifty Shades of Grey: My Version
After six hours of hard labor, I was told my son’s heartbeat was slowing. “Get him out,” I screamed. And they did, slitting me from top to bottom in an emergency C-section. I wasn’t at the hospital or with the doctor where I had received my pregnancy care. A torrential downpour at midnight just as I started my contractions (two weeks early by the doc but right on time by… Read More »Motherhood: The Fear Factor
“I’m going to go out in the yard and eat worms,” is how the rest of that sad ditty goes. If you didn’t say it as a child, you know someone who did. And we have all certainly felt that way more than once or twice. Arguably, to no one does this lament resonate more than writers. And now that writers write for more than newspapers and magazines, now that… Read More »Nobody Loves Me, Everybody Hates Me….